When Resistance Is Deeper: A Nervous System and Trauma-Informed Lens
When Resistance Isn’t Logical, It’s Physiological
If you’ve ever sat frozen in front of the very task you want to complete, you’re not alone, and you’re not lazy. The truth is, our bodies don’t prioritize what feels good. They prioritize what feels safe.
Even nourishing actions, like going for a walk, setting a boundary, or beginning a creative project, can feel threatening to a nervous system shaped by chronic stress, hypervigilance, collapse, or over-adaptation. This isn’t a flaw. It’s a form of protection.
Many of us carry shame about our resistance. We wonder why we can't seem to move forward, even with things we know would help. But resistance, from a trauma-informed perspective, is not a failure of willpower, it’s a survival-based response trying to keep us within the boundaries of what has historically felt tolerable.
How Trauma and Chronic Stress Affect Motivation
Hyperarousal: You feel wired, overwhelmed, and unable to prioritize. There’s urgency, but it burns you out before you begin. Even a small step feels like too much.
Hypoarousal: You feel heavy, shut down, and unmotivated. You may experience brain fog, forgetfulness, or a sense of numbness that makes action feel impossible.
Fawning/Internalized Parts: Some parts of you might have learned to survive by minimizing your own needs, staying invisible, or prioritizing others. These parts might resist “doing the thing” because self-focus feels unfamiliar or unsafe. Their resistance is not sabotage, it’s strategy.
These patterns aren’t about mindset, they’re about physiology. And when we understand that, we can stop blaming ourselves and start working with the system that’s actually in charge.
Safety vs. Goodness
Your body doesn’t always equate “good for me” with “safe for me.”
If you were praised for self-sacrifice, or punished for speaking up, it’s entirely possible that certain beneficial actions now register as risky. Taking up space, making time for rest, or stepping into visibility might trigger internal alarms, even if intellectually you know these things are valuable.
Healing involves creating conditions where the nervous system can begin to update its patterns — not through pressure or force, but through presence, pacing, and permission.
Strategies That Go Deeper Than Productivity
Somatic Tracking: Pause and notice. Where does resistance show up in your body? Is it a lump in your throat, a weight in your chest, a buzzing in your hands? Let it be there without rushing to fix it.
Pendulation: Practice moving gently between challenge and resource. For example, read one line of a daunting email, then look out the window and name three things you see. You’re teaching your system how to return.
Parts Awareness (IFS): Get curious. Which part of you is afraid of moving forward? What does it need to feel safe? You don’t have to exile the resistance, you can make space for it while connecting with the part that wants change.
These aren’t quick hacks, they’re invitations to build safety from the inside out.
Moving Forward with Compassion
When resistance is body-based, it doesn’t respond well to pressure. What it does respond to is curiosity, compassion, and consistency. These are the conditions that can gently open a window of possibility.
You don’t have to fix everything at once. Often, what your nervous system needs is simply to be met, not managed.
In Part Three, we’ll explore exactly that: Working With Your Parts: Experiential Practices to Shift Resistance. You’ll learn how to engage with your internal system in real-time and build a new relationship with the parts of you that are holding back.
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Avoidance isn’t always about willpower. Often, it’s your nervous system trying to protect you from perceived threat, even if that “threat” is something beneficial like rest, boundaries, or creativity. When safety and goodness aren’t the same in your body, resistance can take over.
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If your resistance feels out of proportion, confusing, or rooted in shutdown, shame, or anxiety, especially around things you actually want, there may be a deeper physiological pattern at play. Trauma doesn’t have to be dramatic to affect how you show up in daily life. A therapist trained in somatic and parts-based approaches can help you explore this further.
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Start by noticing it without judgment. Where does it live in your body? What happens when you stay present to it, rather than pushing through or shutting it down? From there, gentle strategies like pendulation, somatic tracking, and parts work can help you begin building internal trust and momentum.
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