What to Expect from a Male Therapist (And Why It’s Okay to Prefer One)
Some men feel more comfortable opening up to someone who has lived a similar experience. Others aren’t sure what to expect from therapy at all. If you’ve been curious about working with a male therapist, this guide is here to help you decide what might feel right for you.
Whether you’re navigating anxiety, burnout, emotional disconnection, or past trauma, working with a therapist who understands the unique pressures of masculinity can make a difference.
Why Some Men Prefer a Male Counsellor
It’s not uncommon for men to feel pressure to hold things in. From an early age, many boys are taught that emotions are a sign of weakness or that vulnerability makes them less masculine. These messages can linger long into adulthood.
A male therapist may be better equipped to understand these unspoken expectations. You might feel safer exploring topics like shame, identity, or relationship struggles with someone who has lived through similar societal conditioning.
And just as importantly, it’s okay to prefer a male therapist simply because it helps you feel more at ease. Therapy works best when you feel safe, heard, and respected.
Why Anyone Might Choose a Male Therapist
People of all genders, including women, non-binary folks, and gender-diverse individuals may seek out a male therapist for different reasons.
Some feel that working with a male therapist offers a reparative experience in relationships with men. Others want to process trauma, grief, or relational dynamics that involve male figures in their lives. In some cases, it’s simply a matter of personal comfort or curiosity.
Choosing a therapist should be about what makes you feel grounded and supported. There is no right or wrong reason to seek out a particular gender.
What Working with a Male Therapist Is Actually Like
There is no one-size-fits-all approach. Male therapists come from diverse backgrounds, with different personalities, styles, and training. But many men who work with male counsellors describe the experience as:
Grounded and practical
Free of judgment or pressure to perform
A space where they can speak honestly without having to explain everything
Some male therapists are particularly skilled at supporting clients who feel unsure about therapy or who have never talked openly about their inner life before.
Therapy Isn’t Just About Talking
Many men benefit from therapy approaches that move beyond traditional talk therapy. At Tidal Trauma Centre, our male therapists are trained in methods that support embodied, action-oriented work, including:
EMDR for processing trauma and emotional overwhelm
Somatic therapy for reconnecting with physical cues and calming the nervous system
Internal Family Systems (IFS) for exploring different parts of yourself without judgment
AEDP and EFT for exploring relational dynamics and reactive patterns
These approaches can be especially supportive if you struggle to name emotions, feel disconnected from your body, or find it hard to express vulnerability with others.
You’re Allowed to Choose the Therapist That Feels Right
There’s no shame in having a preference. In fact, choosing a therapist who feels like a good fit is one of the most important steps in getting started. It’s your space, and it should work for you.
Some of the men we work with tell us they didn’t know how much they needed therapy until they finally found the right counsellor. Whether that’s someone with lived experience, a shared background, or simply someone who listens without judgment, the relationship matters.
How to Find a Male Therapist You Can Trust
If you’re looking for a male therapist, here are a few things to consider:
Look at bios to get a sense of the therapist’s style, training, and areas of focus
Trust your instincts. Do you feel seen and respected during the first consult?
Be honest about your goals. Let the therapist know what support you’re hoping for
Read out Guide to Consult Calls for examples of questions to ask.
And remember, if it doesn’t feel like the right fit, you’re always allowed to switch. Therapy should feel like a place where you can exhale, not perform.
Ready to Start?
You don’t have to figure it all out before reaching out. If you’re curious about working with a male therapist or want support that feels grounded and approachable, we’re here.
Contact us or fill out a New Client Form to get matched with someone who fits what you’re looking for. If you’re ready, book a free consult or appointment.
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That’s completely normal. A skilled therapist will guide the conversation and help you find words for what you’re feeling, even if you’re unsure where to start.
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No. Many male therapists work with people of all genders. But some do specialize in supporting men, especially those dealing with emotional suppression, relationship stress, or identity struggles.
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Start with a free consult. You’ll get a feel for their approach, and it gives both of you a chance to decide if it’s a good match. You’re allowed to prioritize comfort and connection.
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Yes. You don’t need a specific reason. Comfort and safety are valid. Some people find it easier to relax, open up, or feel understood when working with a therapist of a particular gender.
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Not at all. Many male therapists work with clients across all genders. What matters most is the therapeutic relationship, not who sits on which side of the screen or room.
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Working with a male therapist can be healing, but only if it feels safe. It’s okay to start slowly, ask questions, and make decisions that honour your pace and comfort. You’re in charge.
Related Resources
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Blogs:
Why It’s Hard for Men to Ask for Help: Therapy and the Masculine Mask
Therapy Isn’t Just Talking: How Men Can Benefit from EMDR, Somatic, and IFS Approaches
Disclaimer: The content on this website is for informational purposes only and does not constitute medical, psychological, or mental health advice. It is not a substitute for professional care. Always consult a qualified healthcare provider for diagnosis and treatment.